So, Christmas is over and if like me you’re back at work it feels like in distant memory. The topic of the month is New Year’s resolutions and the mood seems to be blue. January is always a difficult time for me; I always have severe ‘January blues’ after starting the new year with a resolution and breaking it within two weeks. Errr ok, let’s be honest two days. I am notoriously bad at sticking to resolutions, and I can’t be the only one, right? The issue is I then am tough on myself, brand myself as a failure and then give up.
I have a cunning plan to beat the blues this year, and although if I am honest it hasn’t been a great few weeks, this is down to events and not my mood. So, what exactly does my plan include? In a nutshell being kind to myself. New Years resolutions are focused on what we aren’t good at, our weaknesses. I have a list as long as your arm of things I know I should change, and I am not good at, but focusing purely on this just makes me feel, well … blue. So, I have started the New Year with a focus on what my strengths are and how I can use and develop these rather than what I am not good at. I have a written list which is displayed on my noticeboard.
I am driven when it comes to my professional life much more than I am in my personal life. I will happily accept that I need to keep working at something and everything can’t be solved in a day at work, but expect instant results at home. I need to be kinder to myself and realise that in all honesty going from not exercising enough, not eating regular meals and filling my body full of rubbish (and often late at night) an unhealthy caffeine intake and let’s not forget the smoking, to a picture of full health isn’t going to happen overnight and this doesn’t’ make me a failure. Instead I intend to look at minor changes that I can make and slowly work on these, taking small steps towards my end goal. The first thing I have decided to put into practice is not eating anything after 9pm at night. I have found this really easy to stick to and when the other half pulls out a box of chocolates and offers to share, it hasn’t been difficult to decline at all.
Next on my list is to schedule in my diary ‘me time’. Like many others, I can so often focus on the needs of others, that my needs fall to the bottom of the to do list. I don’t show the kindness that I do to others to myself. This needs to change, I deserve my kindness just as much as anyone else, right?
At our Enhance the UK team meeting which was our first day back to work after the holidays we all had an air of positivity. We know we are going to achieve lots this year and have some exciting things in the pipeline (especially with our Undressing Disability Campaign). During the meeting we set long-term objectives, and short-term targets to ensure we meet these. We prioritised workload and scheduled time to meet/ focus on each project. This is exactly what I need to do in my personal life. By employing these strategies that I use at work, I am going to be kind to myself.